I am somewhat liberal when it comes to sex and the encounters I choose to have. For the longest time I believed that this would mean I would frequent “crazy sex” and this is largely because this is what society believes when women portray sexual liberal views. According to the Daily Mail UK, the amount of times one has sex significantly drops from the age 30 and upwards, compared to their 20s. However, in a podcast by the BBC, it is said that in the current times, millennials (people born between the early 1980s and the late 1990s) in their 20s are having much less sex than their previous generation counterparts; the baby boomers. I guess it’s a matter of the time I happen to have been born in. 

The reasons why people in their 20s are having way less sex varies from person to person and according to the podcast, a variety of factors such as age, sexual orientation, marital status, religion, likely play a role in what “normal” sex frequency is for the average person. For the purposes of this article, my interest is in the frequency at which people in their 30s are now having sex. It is also important at this day and age to note that, sex means different things for different people. Is it having sex with a partner, masturbating, having a toy, etc? An article, titled, “The most popular forms of intercourse” on goldengloves.com, the writer points out that, generally, the term sex, involves having sex with another person.

This general concept of sex being an act that involves another person is the main reason why the number of people having sex is supposedly continuously decreasing. In an article titled, “Millennials having noticeably less sex than past generations”, Kerushun Pillay, notes that this is all happening in arguably the most sexually-free period in history, where sex is seemingly no longer a taboo subject. However, it seems it takes more than just sexual freedom (as I had believed before) and access to another person for one to actually be willing to have sex. In my liberal ways, I’ve found this has a big factor in the reduced sexual frequency amongst millennials. One most recent experience, a man I thought would be a frequent sexual partner complained that I had started my period at his house. I could not believe that I had to explain to a grown man how unpredictable women’s bodies are. 

Mellinials (in their 20s and 30s), at an age in which they are supposedly at their peak of sexual activity are having less sex because of increased self-awareness. There is no longer a need amongst young people to prove their sexual identities and preferences. Between 2000-2002 and 2016-2018, past-year sexual inactivity rose from almost 19 percent to almost 31 percent among men ages 18 to 24, and the study also found that sexual activity declined significantly among men and women ages 25 to 34 years old. All the above is to let you know that I am not getting laid and I don’t like it one bit but who am I to change the ways of life?